They say, “All roads lead to Rome.” This is definitely true in Italy, but I learned that the key is, you must stay on them! Last year I took a detour on some backroads through some beautiful wine country in Italy on my way to Rome. The countryside was so breathtaking that I soon got distracted from my bigger purpose of staying on the roads and instead found myself and my little rented Panda teetering on the edge of a ditch!
The little car got high centered and it was so tiny that I had to be very careful climbing out to prevent it from rolling right over once my weight was displaced. After a successful exit, I surveyed the situation and actually considered that since it was a very small car, I might be able to lift it back on to the road. Hahahahaha.
I tried many similar unsuccessful and desperate ideas, but nothing seemed to work. Finally, I had to change my approach completely. Somehow I had to ask for help (not generally one of my strengths). I walked about a quarter mile to the nearest farmhouse and asked in very broken Italian for some help to pull me out of the ditch and get me back on the road to Rome. It seemed the whole family came out to witness what this silly blonde American girl had done. The grandmother stepped away from hanging clothes on the line, a little girl giggled and the father and grandpa shook their heads at the ridiculous scene, but from their smiles I could see they were excited to help. Grandpa went and got the tractor and within minutes they had me back on the road to Rome.
So even though I fell off the road for awhile, there were solutions and people around me to get me back on track towards my destination. In this case the people that supported me were at first strangers that I would now call friends. Look around you, who can support you in getting back on the road to where you want to go?
The reason I thought of this story is that it is already February and many of us feel that we have fallen off the road and it is too late to keep the goals we made for 2013. Are you one that intended to write down some goals, but put it off and now think you don’t really have to keep them since you never wrote them down? Are you one of the many that already “fell off the wagon” (or in this case, the road) and figure it is too late, you might as well forget it? Do you already feel stuck back in the old ruts of 2012?
I know I already slipped on a few too– if you haven’t you are one in a million! Let’s get back up and back on the road together. Goals and intent for growth don’t just have to happen in January. It is not too late!
Here is an ultimate success formula for continual growth and success that I use all the time. Follow this outline for getting back up every time you fall and ultimately you will get the results you are looking for.
Deciding to create a result causes events to be set in motion. If you simply decide what it is you want, have a big enough why (actually a MUST for you–not something on a wish list), get yourself to take real action (today), learn from it, and change your approach as necessary, then you will produce the momentum to achieve the growth and results that you want.
Einstein defined insanity as doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. If I remained committed to my original idea of trying to lift the car by myself I would have obviously made no progress, I would still be stuck, most likely sitting sadly in a state of helplessness and thinking of all the gelato I was missing. It took Edison 1,000 tries before he invented the light bulb. He didn’t call the previous experiments failures, but lessons learned. Each failed attempt taught him what doesn’t work and finally there was light!
Notice, there is no “HOW” in this. As soon as you truly commit to making something happen, the “how” will reveal itself. I am here to tell you that it doesn’t matter initially if you don’t know HOW you are going to create a result. The more crucial component to goal setting is deciding what you want and knowing you will find a way, no matter what.
Concerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elementary truth — that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves, too.”
–Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
The longer you wait to do something you should do now the greater the odds that you will never actually do it.
— John Maxwell
Decide to take some real action (large or small) on a goal you want today. Build the momentum and see what happens. So if there is somewhere in your life that feels stuck, get up, learn what you can and take new action. Remember all roads lead to success, but you must be on them!