Gear UP! A Life Lesson from Yosemite

If we see the word UP as an acronym for “Unlimited Potential” or “Untapped Potential” it gives even more meaning to the phrase, “UP Only!”. Each week I explore motivating ways to consider the word UP to increase our own “UP Potential”.

Gear UP!
The Time to Prevent a Leak is BEFORE it Rains!

Yosemite in April comes with it’s extra perks and risks. The perk is less people during the week and the risk is that it might rain. We spent a week in Yosemite for John’s birthday and we didn’t let the potential for rain in the forecast damper our spirits. We made sure to pack our raincoats and happily threw in our emergency ponchos.

Regular backpackers, John and I typically aim to keep our supplies under 30 pounds — light enough to carry on our backs. This time, however, we planned to camp in luxury. We brought it all, including the big tent and a blow-up air mattress. Once we arrived at the campground, we quickly surmised that we are still car-camping rookies compared to the people around us who showed up with their second home on wheels and their flat screen TVs.

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Undaunted, we figured out how to set up the big tent John inherited from a roommate (and had only used once on a summer camping trip several years ago), stored our food in the bear box, placed our camping chairs around the fire pit and then set off on our bikes to explore the grandeur of Yosemite. Our smiles were so wide they hardly fit on our faces.

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On day two we decided to hike to Vernal Falls and Nevada Falls, a spectacular hike. It is only 6.5 miles round trip and we were on a mission to recreate a picture we took 4 years ago. When we got to the top, we took several photos before a squirrel finally cooperated with us to recreate this shot:

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After the photo shoot, we both looked at each other and in typical John and Shay fashion, decided to explore more and see how far we could go. With the sun on our noses and a few snacks in our bellies, we hit the trail up to Half Dome.

After about an hour, dark clouds began to roll in and we heard thunder in the distance, but we had come too far to turn around now. As we gained altitude, we put on our rain coats, our beanies, and our gloves to prepare for the drop in temperature. It wasn’t long before the rain began and we were grateful we remembered to bring our ponchos.

As we reached the treeless base of Subdome, the time between the loud cracks of thunder got shorter. With lightning now a possibility, we chose to wait out under the trees before our final ascent as if to prove we did have an ounce of intelligence.

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Eventually, we decided to go for it. The steep steps up the slippery rock were made more treacherous by the hail and rain so we proceeded cautiously. And as we made the last climb up into the clouds we noticed it was no longer raining, but snowing!

Through the fog, we saw the cables of Half Dome. Success! This was the end of the trail for us because the cables for the last 400 vertical feet were still down for the season. There was not much of a view, but it was amazing to feel like we were on top of the world.

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We were soaking wet but still smiling when we started the 9 mile return back down. A couple miles into our descent I noticed my frozen hands were so swollen from the cold and altitude that they looked like two baseball gloves. To use them for any sort of task that required dexterity (including eating trail mix) was nearly impossible and certainly laughable.

We left in the morning for a 6.5 mile hike, but 19 miles, 4,800 vertical feet and about 9 hours later, we made it back to a very wet campsite.  We were chilled to the bone, but our spirits were still high from the adventure.

Until…

I unzipped our tent and found our clothes and air mattress in a puddle of water.

Our tent had leaked! It was nearly 8 pm — it was now dark, cold and hard to see. Everything seemed wet. Luckily, we were still somewhat buoyed by the survival of our adventure so we kept a good attitude and went into problem-solving mode.

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Like any good mountain man, John immediately got out the duct tape and did his best to solve the problem. After that didn’t work, we took the tarp out from underneath the tent and threw it on top along with our picnic tablecloth. This managed to keep things covered and John dug a small trench for the water to drain away from the tent. Brilliant.

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Once the leaky tent was under control, we decided it would be a good night for a hot shower and a pizza! We hoped when we returned that our efforts to prevent further leaks would be successful.

The leak did stop and we continued to have a wonderful trip. Although we never seemed to get completely dry, this trip was full of fond memories and a powerful take home lesson:

The time to prevent leaks is BEFORE it rains!

In life, no matter how well we plan, unexpected challenges and mishaps are still in our future. All we can do is GEAR UP and equip ourselves the best we can with good attitudes, proper foresight and preparation.

For example, inspect your tent before you go camping, and always be sure to pack a good attitude!

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10216652If you wanted to develop a skill, you would certainly seek out a coach. Life is the biggest game with the largest stakes you will ever play. Why wouldn’t you want a coach at your side to help you make the most of it and increase your odds for success? Shay is a life and leadership coach ready to assist you and your team to create momentum and results. Click here for more info and your FREE GIFT.
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It’s Okay to Mess UP!

If we see the word UP as an acronym for “Unlimited Potential” or “Untapped Potential” it gives even more meaning to the phrase, “UP Only!”. Each week I explore motivating ways to consider the word UP to increase our own “UP Potential”.

Mistakes, You Can’t Grow Without Them

I once flew on a trapeze with a traveling circus in South America. I climbed the long wobbly ladder to the top of the circus tent and though I had never done it before, I grabbed the trapeze bar and jumped off the small perch like a pro.

I was probably not as graceful and fluid as I thought, but it did feel as though I was flying through the air with the “greatest of ease”.

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When it was time to let go, the Columbian trapeze coach yelled up to me: “¡Suéltalo!”. Obediently, I let go, laid myself out horizontally, and did a free fall into the net 45 feet below.

Landing was easy, but crossing the big net to get down proved difficult. As I awkwardly crawled to the side, my leg fell through and I struggled to release myself from the net’s grip.  I no longer felt graceful. Yet despite my clumsy dismount, I raised my arms up high, lifted my chin and said, “ta-dah!”

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Ta-dah!

Recently this simple “ta-dah!” gesture has taken on more meaning to me. Consider how performers, acrobats, and gymnasts end their flawless performances with the expected “ta-dah!” as if it was the exclamation point on their routine. The result is always applause and approval from the crowd.

In the same manner, isn’t it true that performers that make mistakes or fail to complete their trick also finish with the same “ta-dah!”?  And aren’t these performances met with equal applause and perhaps more admiration?

It is easy to picture young gymnasts or small children with beaming smiles and their arms spread wide in perfect “ta-dah” form after an unbalanced somersault or a crooked cartwheel. Without a doubt their imperfect action is always met with enthusiastic support and encouragement.

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What a great outlook. The truth is, if we want to grow, we are going to make mistakes along the way. Why not embrace them immediately with a “ta-dah!”

Will you make mistakes in your life? In your business? In your relationships? Yes — guaranteed!

Next time you do, try smiling and saying “ta-dah!”

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Mistakes are part of the process, you can’t grow without them.

In the process of becoming a toddler, did you fall down a lot learning to walk? Of course! Did your parents or others reject you as incompetent when your first attempts to walk were clumsy and unsuccessful? No! They may have giggled a bit, but I bet they always helped you up and encouraged you to try again.

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As a child you were curious about what you could do.  You didn’t question whether or not you should try to walk, you didn’t judge whether or not you would be any good, and you certainly didn’t put off trying until you read every book on it first; you just went out and tried and tried and tried again.

By the way… you looked awkward, you looked clumsy, you teetered and fell on almost every attempt. Then one day you got up and crossed the room.

The sooner we can get it out of our head that mistakes are something to be avoided or that anything other than immediate success is embarrassing, the sooner we can make real growth and positive change in our lives.

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Ta-dah!

I was talking to a client the other day who is a promising songwriter. She felt stuck for some time and desperately wanted to have the success she deserves. Finally she blurted out, “I guess I just need to be okay with writing bad songs too!” Wow! I thought, that’s brilliant!

Whether you are a struggling songwriter, want to write your first book, start a new business, or develop a buried talent, be willing to allow your first efforts to be less than perfect.

Waiting for perfection keeps your dreams and goals elusive and perpetually in the future. The only way to the next level is to be willing to make mistakes today and to be prepared to be less than perfect so that your next effort is better by experience. Momentum begins when you start, but can never begin if you don’t.

On a blue post-it note above my desk I have this quote by Harry S. Truman:

“Imperfect action is better than perfect inaction.”

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Don’t be afraid to Mess UP. Don’t be embarrassed when your efforts are less than perfect. Be proud that you took action. Say “ta-dah”, learn, laugh and get up again. Each time you do you will be one step closer to your masterpiece.

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Ta-dah!

 cropped-dsc07512-version-2.jpgIf you wanted to develop a skill, you would certainly seek out a coach. Life is the biggest game with the largest stakes you will ever play. Why wouldn’t you want a coach at your side to help you make the most of it and increase your odds for success? Shay is a life and leadership coach ready to assist you and your team to create momentum and results. Click here for more info and your FREE GIFT.
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Team UP

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One spring when myself and a group of my closest high school friends were all home from college, we decided to do some whitewater rafting on our local Kaweah River below Sequoia National Park. The spring run-off was at its peak and the water was flowing so high and fast that the rafting company was not allowing any other guests on the river. But we were locals and we incessantly pleaded our case until they reluctantly gave in and agreed to let us go.

riverAt certain points the river was running at a class VI. Rapids are categorized in classes from easiest (class I) to un-runnable (class VI). A class VI rapid section is the most difficult and it is generally advised for even the most expert to avoid these sections. It requires great precaution, skill, teamwork and a lot of luck. In these sections it is not a matter of “if” you will flip over, but “when” you will flip over.

Before we approached the first class VI our guide began to explain just what to expect. He explained that they had a crew with safety lines set up ready to rescue each of us when we flipped. He then proceeded to explain the high level of trust we would have to have in him and in each other to steer the boat and to get through this section of rapids.

Our adrenaline was high. We were all adventurous, we were all athletes, and we were all good teammates with a high level of trust between us. We knew we could do this and we shared a common vision of a successful outcome. Once in the gnarly twisting rapids, our guide yelled at the top of his lungs, “Right!” “Left!” “Right!” Left!” and we rowed accordingly with every ounce of our energy and with the commitment of soldiers going to battle. We got into an incredible rhythm and sync.  It was truly surreal.

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We trusted each other completely, we took the challenge head on, we followed the instructions of our leader implicitly and we came out on the other side of this section without flipping over! The guides who were lined up along the edge to rescue us, cheered and celebrated our victory in disbelief. We celebrated with high fives and hugs and our guide collapsed from exhaustion and enormous satisfaction.

During my athletic career, I had some tremendous experiences with teams and the power of trust, but this was truly the best illustration of just what can be accomplished when teamwork and trust are laser-focused on a common goal.

Together we met a great challenge and together we beat the odds. We were only successful because of the level of trust manifested; we were in the same boat, rowing in the same direction and we shared the same vision of of a successful outcome.

Had just one of us taken our eyes off the desired outcome and instead focused fearfully towards the looming hole we were trying to avoid, we would have all certainly ended up swimming separately and desperately for the rescue ropes. And if one of us chose not to do our share of the paddling or even deliberately paddled out of sync with the others, the river would have laughed at the ease in which it tossed us into the ice cold twisting water.

No team on the court, on the field, in the boardroom, or in the home can be successful without a full commitment to teamwork and unconditional trust.

Take every opportunity SHOW UP as a great teammate for you and for others. Deliberately TEAM UP with people who share a common vision of your desired outcome and who will paddle hard through turbulent water with you to get there.

These are the best friends you could ever ask for and they make every adventure in life worth living.

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Enjoy the Climb UP

Recently John and I watched the documentary, K2: Siren of the Himalayas on Netflix.

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It was fascinating. I recommend it even if adventure, mountaineering and near death experiences don’t excite you.

Why you ask? Because the lessons taught by this powerful mountain and the incredible people who have attempted to conquer it, transfer perfectly to life.

We all have mountains to climb, hard choices to make, and days that test our endurance. If we become overly obsessed with our summit to success, we can miss the majestic views, awe-inspiring vistas and experiences along the way.

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There are 14 peaks in the world that reach over 8,000 meters.  Mt. Everest is the tallest at 8,848 m (29,029 ft), yet K2 still remains the most formidable at 8,611 m (28,251 ft).  One climber said that “Mt. Everest and K2 aren’t even the same sport”.

Mt. Everest has been successfully summited 6,871 times with 248 unfortunate deaths (a death rate of 3.6%). K2 has 337 summits with 84 deaths (an alarming death rate of 25%). Yet skilled alpinists come back year after year hoping each time to beat the odds and reach the elusive summit.

fabrizio close upFabrizio Zangrilli is an accomplished and well-respected alpinist who has made 6 attempts on K2. Twice he has been tantalizingly close to reaching the K2 summit. On his first attempt in 2000, although it was a perfect day, he stopped just 820 feet short of his goal to give aide to a high altitude porter slumped down in the snow. Instead of summiting, Zangrilli spent the next four days helping the man off the mountain.

In 2009, the rising sun illuminated another perfect summit day for Zangrilli. Exhausted, he took in the familiar view of one of the most stunning mountain ranges in the world and felt he could almost touch the K2 peak. After investing nearly two months on this particular expedition, Zangrilli was faced with a tough decision. Does he press forward and accomplish his goal knowing that his exhaustion could prove fatal in the descent?

Zangrilli abandoned his dream and chose instead to return home safe. What he said about his decision in the documentary parallels a perfect life lesson:

“There are lessons to be learned from every climb. You are constantly changing how you do things, how you see things. You don’t really worry much about summits. You want them, you chase them, but you really better enjoy the day in and day out activity of being there. You’re ever present in the moment. If it’s that one moment you’re chasing your gonna forget about the millions of moments that came before.”

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The climb up in life is seldom one straight, continuous, upward journey. There are twists and turns, valleys, plateaus and even crevices to cross. All along the way there are experiences and views to take in. If you feel that your successes are “never enough”  or “not fast enough” you lose sight of why the journey is worth taking.

Enjoy the climb UP and be present where you are.

If you feel that a perceived failure limits and defines your future, you become blind to alternate routes that could potentially take you far beyond what you initially judged to be your ultimate success.

Enjoy the climb UP and be open to new routes.

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There are no failures, if you try something and it doesn’t work but you learn something from it that can help you be more effective in the future, then you’ve truly succeeded.

Enjoy the climb UP and seek growth and experience as the ultimate measure of your success.

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If it was a skill you wanted to develop, you would certainly seek out a coach. Life is the biggest game with the largest stakes you will ever play. Why wouldn’t you want a coach at your side to help you make the most of it and increase your odds for success? Shay is a life and leadership coach ready to assist you and your team to create momentum and results. Click here for more info and your FREE GIFT.
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RISE UP

If we see the word UP as an acronym for “Unlimited Potential” or “Untapped Potential” it gives even more meaning to the phrase, “UP Only!”.
Each week I explore motivating ways to consider the word UP to increase our own “UP Potential”.

Within 15 months two amazing things happened to me. One happened on Monday June 27, 2011 when not of my own choosing, I became the former women’s volleyball head coach at Brigham Young University. I didn’t know it at the time, but it is one of the greatest catalysts for growth in my life thus far. It taught me many lessons and continues to teach me lessons about who I am, what I know, and about who I want to be.

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It taught me about leadership, influence, decision-making and teamwork in ways I wouldn’t have learned if I spent three decades at the school.

I am forever grateful not only for the three years I was there, but for the lessons I learned and the new paths I blazed beginning on June 27, 2011.

One thing I know is that what happened to me on September 22, 2012, only 15 short months later, was one of the best days of the rest of my life. I can’t help but wonder, would it have happened? On September 22, 2012, I married my husband, my friend, and my eternal companion John.

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Like fierce and angry winds blowing a ship to shore, adversity and negativity teach us far more and much faster than a life without it.  While no one wants it, I hope that no one escapes it. If we choose to RISE UP and learn through the tough experiences that come our way, we can take the lessons and look forward with anticipation to the gifts on the other side.

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As time moves forward all that is left is the lesson. Grab the lessons, RISE UP and move on. Leadership takes time and success is not instantaneous.  Just as there will be much success ahead, the only guarantee is there will be additional disappointments and more lessons.

Choose to RISE UP each time you fall and after every bump and bruise. As you do, you will have the opportunity to take you and the people you influence to places only growth can lead you.

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Happy St Patricks Day! Remember, rainbows follow storms… what’s at the end of your rainbow?

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Look UP!

If we see the word UP as an acronym for “Unlimited Potential” or “Untapped Potential” it gives even more meaning to the phrase, “UP Only!”.
Each week I explore motivating ways to consider the word UP to increase our own “UP Potential”.

look-up2-with-words1 I often have extremely vivid and wild dreams. Many of them I remember quite clearly when I wake up and my husband always enjoys a good laugh at the generally ridiculous plots. Unfortunately, upon recall, they seldom make much sense and they certainly don’t seem to ever have a real message.

But one dream I had about seven years ago has stuck with me and although the plot was ridiculous, the images are still vivid, the feelings it conjured up still tangible, and it’s message very clear:  LOOK UP!

In the dream I was told that one of my colleagues, a softball coach, had been sent in a space shuttle to the moon. Her mission was only to last a couple of days, but she had been there nearly a week and I was given the mission to bring her back as soon as possible.

I was told that I must leave straight away and that it was extremely urgent that I get the softball coach to return immediately. I took the mission seriously and before I knew it I found myself inside my own space shuttle headed straight to the moon. I remember looking down at all the lights, switches, and buttons on the control panel and being surprised that I knew how to fly the space craft. It felt like I had done it before.

Suddenly, in a way that only happens in dreams, I found myself on the moon and in the same shuttle as the softball coach. I was explaining desperately to her that I was given strict instructions for us to return immediately. She attempted to persuade me to let her stay, but in my mind she was in danger and it was my mission and responsibility to get her back. I radioed the control tower to let them know we were returning promptly.

In the cock pit, there was a small circular window to my left and I remember thinking to myself, I really need to take a look at the view. It would be the opportunity of a lifetime to have the chance to see the whole earth in its majestic blue form from outer space.

I put the thought in the back of my mind as I was wholly consumed with the more immediate task of piloting the big space shuttle and returning myself, the space craft, and the softball coach back to earth safe and sound. I looked intensely at the instrument panel and anxiously calculated the trajectory and speed I would need to safely re-enter the atmosphere. I remember a tremendous feeling of relief and even surprise as I successfully guided the craft back through layers of atmosphere and into the familiar blue, cloud-filled skies of earth.

However, I suddenly had a new and very valid concern. I was quickly approaching a big city about the size of New York and it donned on me that while I was taught how to fly the space craft, no one taught me how to land it!

As I desperately considered my situation, I noticed a large expanse of green grass and felt new hope. I put all my energy and attention on the field ahead and used every ounce of strength I had left to steady the space craft. I remember the very corporeal feeling of adrenaline in my veins and the white-knuckled, vice-like grip I had on the control wheel as I miraculously landed the craft safely on the field.

payphoneMy dream then seamlessly, yet inexplicably, transported me to the next scene where I found myself at a convenience store payphone calling my mom. The adrenaline was still pumping through my body and I was talking a mile a minute to keep up with my breath in a fruitless attempt to convince my mom that I had successfully been sent on a mission to the moon and back. I felt frustrated that she didn’t believe me, but I assured her it was a far too visceral experience to have been just a dream.

As I relayed my adventure to my mom in exciting detail, I suddenly remembered something that made my stomach drop into a pit of deep regret.

I forgot to look!

I told my mom over and over again, “I forgot to look”, “I forgot to look!” “Mom, I forgot look!” The tears flowed. It had been a life long dream to take in the majestic and surreal view of the earth from high above in outer space. But in the heat of the moment, I forgot to do the most simple thing: LOOK UP! I was so intent on my task, so consumed with looking down at the control panels in front of me, that I forgot to LOOK UP and take in a view that would have looked something like this:

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I woke up from that dream with a very real physical feeling of regret and tangible disappointment. The message was clear — always remember to LOOK UP!

While there are many things that deserve your focused attention while living life, never forget to LOOK UP otherwise you could miss something that makes your life worth living.

Those of us living today are faced with a challenge the generations before never knew– looking down at our smartphones, our devices, and our tablets. We look down at them for the news, for directions, for communication, for connection and even for validity. Kids today don’t know a world where we didn’t act as robots addicted to our personal devices and gadgets.

Take a moment out of your busy day to LOOK UP, take in peoples’ faces, take in the view, find a place where you can look up and see the millions of stars in the sky, take in the miracle of a sunset and as you do, listen to your thoughts. It doesn’t matter what they are, just listen. It’s likely that if you gaze into heaven 5 minutes you will be filled with gratitude and awe. You will find solutions to your questions and discover your problems are not as big as you thought. cropped-dsc00373.jpg By the way, it’s hard to be down when you are looking UP.  🙂 smileface

Check out what these people missed because they wouldn’t take the time to LOOK UP. What will you miss out on today if you don’t LOOK UP?

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Show UP and Be Present to Win

If we see the word UP as an acronym for “Unlimited Potential” or “Untapped Potential” it gives even more meaning to the phrase, “UP Only!”.
Each week I explore motivating ways to consider the word UP to increase our own UP Potential.

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Tickets-300x230To increase our UP Potential, we must first SHOW UP.

Woody Allen is credited for saying “80% of success in life is showing up.”  I would say he is 80% right, but what about that other 20%?  Think about it, many have dreams, but most don’t try.  It seems that what Woody is saying is that just by showing up dressed and ready to get in the game you are 80% closer to achieving your goals.

Think of an example as simple as going to the gym.  If you showed up to the gym today you are 80% of the way closer to a good workout. The hardest part is fighting the alarm clock in the morning or the couch after work, but if you actually got your gym clothes on and showed up at the gym you are well on your way.

But is showing up enough?  For instance, there are many that show up to the gym in their spiffy workout gear and then spend the rest of the time taking selfies or chatting around equipment.  You know the ones I am talking about!

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There are millions that get up every day, get dressed, get coffee, sit in traffic and show up for work.  They work hard, meet deadlines, take a lunch break, finish assignments before they leave the office, fight traffic and return home to sleep before repeating the same process the next day. These people certainly can argue that they are showing up.

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While life may require showing up for work, don’t let it get in the way of showing up for your dreams, your goals and life pursuits outside of your “have-to’s”. Without mindful attention, one can easily spend their whole life making a living instead of designing a life.

So if 80% of success in life is showing up, then the bigger question might be: How?

In his own inarticulate way, Woody was trying to say that you actually have to do the work. If you want to accomplish something you can’t spend the time dawdling and putting it off. You must show up intentionally and put in the time to produce. If you want to write a screenplay, you must show up daily with rare discipline at your typewriter or keyboard. It’s not all about talent, degrees, or luck; it’s about showing up and applying yourself in daily deliberate pursuit of your goals.

Many may accuse those that have had some success as lucky or being in the right place at the right time, but the majority of those who enjoy long term success know the price they paid.  They know they showed up daily when it was hard and when no one else believed. They showed up when it seemed it may never work and prepared and positioned themselves for future success. You can’t wait for the publisher to knock on your door and ask you to write a book.  You have to show up and write it first.

John Wooden said, “When opportunity knocks, it is too late to prepare.”

Theodore Roosevelt has many exceptional quotes that motivate and compelling speeches that inspire, but this stirring selection known now as “The Man in the Arena Quote” taken from Citizenship in a Republic given in 1910, is a favorite of mine:

tr waving hatIt is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.

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According to Teddy Roosevelt, to try and to fail is a life far better lived than one without the experience of either. It is not enough to show up dressed for the game and remain a spectator.  The other 20% comes from showing up dressed, ready to play, and with every intention of getting in the game no matter the cost.

Here are four suggestions to daringly Show UP in a way that will increase the odds in your favor:

  1. Show UP Deliberately: Decide now to always have a purpose in your efforts. If you are practicing a skill, be fully present, intentional and mindful in your endeavors.  The results of deliberate, purposeful practice far outweigh those of mindless repetition.
  2. Show UP Consistently: Practice daily even when it’s hard or feels fruitless. If you want to learn a new language, practice it daily. If you want to play guitar, play daily. If you want more clients, network daily. Your daily efforts toward your goals should be non-negotiable daily habits.
  3. Show UP Differently: Be willing to try new ideas and develop different strategies. Embrace a growth mindset and be coachable. Accept failure as experience and an opportunity to discover better ways to achieve your goals. One of the most dangerous phases you could ever hear someone say is “I’ve always done it this way.”
  4. Show UP Imperfectly: Don’t wait until you know you will succeed. Be okay with imperfect results. If you want to write, be willing to write something that is not perfect. Remember your poorly written book is better than the one you never wrote and infinitely closer to your masterpiece. Each effort gets you closer to your goal and reaches deeper into your untapped potential.

In what areas of your life do you need to Show UP?

Take the four suggestions above and turn it into a 21-day challenge.  Dare to Show UP Deliberately, Consistently, Differently and even Imperfectly in one area of your life for the next 21 days and see what happens!

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